He Has Got A Side Chick

Do you want to know if he has got a side chick ? Then keep reading… Nobody wants to play the fool in a relationship; nobody wants to be cheated on. Nobody wants to get hurt and even serial cheaters hates being cheated on.

Most times I wish I can read people’s mind, and am sure everyone does too. If we all knew how to read our partner’s minds, things would be easier. But unfortunately, we can’t.

Well, trouble yourself no more; I have got a list of actions that he exhibits that is a side chick alert; We all know the obvious signs like: his cell phone has a password on it and other behaviors of cheating men, well I am not going to bore you with the common ones that most of us are aware of. This list is based on the research of Charles J. Orlando on 50 cheating men and their partners.

 1. Unpredictable mood swings

“I was constantly looking for reasons to get away, and it was hard to think of new excuses all the time. So, I’d start a fight with her.”

Being angry in an instant or being overly nice is a red flag. There’s no real reason for him to leave, so he has to create one. He frequently picks fights with you. Doing this gives him reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet his side chick.

  2. Lots of Gifts

He gets overly attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilt feelings he experiences in the early stages of his affair. The attention will diminish as the affair continues. He will shower you with gifts —lots of gifts. These are “guilt gifts” purchased because he feels guilty about betraying you and showering you with presents makes him feel better.

 3. Sudden need for privacy

“I was working from home and I started closing the door more often, saying that I just needed to work quietly. I was online chatting with my side chick.”

To take time for one’s self is normal. But when it’s out of the normal pattern or is more and more frequent, it’s a sign that something else is going in. Going into work early, leaving late, getting off the phone suddenly, taking lots of private calls from a “relative” (mom, sister, and cousins), demanding for space and alone time are all tell signs of a side chick.

 4. Awkward conversations

Your relationship turns from a very communicative one to a point when you two can hardly have a conversation. You might live together but still don’t interact and he becomes cold towards you. And when you argue or fight, he will talk about your relationship ending. He says things like,

“What would you do if our relationship ended?” or “If anything ever happened to us, I would always love you like a friend.”

In general, he seems very negative about your relationship. He makes these statements because he has a side chick to fall back on if your relationship ends. If your partner repeats these kinds of statements often, be suspicious.

 5. change in sexual appetite and music

“I started up with my side chick and all I wanted was sex, but not from my partner. She knew something was up, because our sex life was always pretty active.”

I’ve never really liked jazz. But I struck up with a side chick, we enjoyed it together. I started listening to it all the time, just to think about her.”

Your hot sex life suddenly turns to something boring and only happens occasionally. Also, sudden change in music taste. For instance, he always listened to pop music but suddenly starts listening to country music. Your partner might be listening to and growing fond of this new type of music because his side chick listens to it. There’s nothing wrong with trying new things. But when it’s out of the blue and he excludes you from the change, it’s a warning sign that something is amiss.

The list goes on and on but these are the top tell-tale signs to watch for in your man. While these signs aren’t foolproof signs of cheating, a few taken in combination are sure signs that something is up. But, I advise that if you do suspect him, sit him down for a long talk about your concerns.

If that nagging feeling doesn’t disappear, you have some choices to make and perhaps some investigations to start or better still, break up!!!… yeah! I said it  break up! You all know am single, so I promote break ups, the single club is always open to new members.

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