Pop Da Question

Pop da question, don’t fright. Am a feminist; am in the girl power movement, I believe in women having the right to express themselves. Women asking guys out on a date is a very controversial issue especially in Africa; some people view it as inappropriate. But let’s check this out; its ok for a man to express his feelings for a woman and it is not ok for a woman to do the same? In other words, women shouldn’t have feelings for a random guy and if she does, she should bury it and pray fervently that the man feels the same way towards her so he can make the first move. That’s OLDSCHOOL! If you like someone, you say it! Gender shouldn’t be a barrier, pop da question.

First, what are men’s perspectives on the topic? Real men find it admirable that a woman had guts to make the move, but jacks or better stills boys brag about it and trash talk the woman bold enough to do so. You can’t blame them, they are kids and you shouldn’t have any business with them, you ought to seek after real men. Pop da question.

Now, how do you ask him out and still look classy and not like a total desperado?

1. Be ready for the worst: The very first point you should remember is that the worst outcome when you pop da question is that he would say a NO!
2. Get familiar with him: Studies have shown that people easily start a relationship with friends; you have to create a sense of security.
3. Drop a few hints: As far as possible never be way too direct. Drop a few hints when you are with him that going out with him would be great fun. If he understands them, well you are in for some fun times and if he isn’t try a little harder. If he still doesn’t get it then leave it as it might not be worth it.
4. Call him on a group date: You can ask him to join you when you are going out with your friends so that if the supposed date isn’t going well, you can rely on your friends who would help you to escape from the embarrassment.
5. Flirt a little: Healthy flirting is good and doing it with that cute guy with whom you have been looking forward to go on a date with is more fun. Make sure that you don’t come across too strong a flirt.
6. Bump him at his favorite places: This doesn’t mean that you become a professional stalker. Once or twice bump him at his favorite places and jokingly but smartly ask him to stop following you and take you out for a real drink or dinner.

Don’t practice the above like they are chores, let it come natural, if you truly have feelings for him, it will come natural to you. Also, take time after each step to create an impact. When you have done all these and he hasn’t asked you out yet, then be the bigger person and pop da question. If it goes positive good, if he turns you down don’t try again, he is properly not the one for you. The most important thing is that you had the courage to express yourself. Go girl!!!…

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