Divorce the lingering evil. Divorce is when a couple decide they have had enough of each other and have their marriage dissolved by a court. I would ask why get married in the first place when you will get divorced? No one ever really plans to get a divorce in the first place, that is if you think of it critically. Getting through a divorce is a bitter experience for a partner that wants to fight for the marriage, and more painful for the kids who will have to answer questions from school mates who are in the know.

However marriage is a complex thing or it is not. it is not easy keeping two adults from different walks of life together and ask them to be eternally committed to each other “till death do them part“. Sometimes the union sees old age while other times the marriage crash. What I am asking is can we be adult enough to try to make it work? Painfully, it could be beyond us. Marriage is a beautiful adorable thing…until it’s not. when kids are involved it is even harder.

Things to know about divorce

(1) It is not relief or it is… it will never feel like those days you have to enjoy that big bed alone because your partner went on a trip. Relief because you got what you think you needed.

(2) When the kid(s) are sick and you are alone, you will wish their other parent were there. those times are painful.

(3) When you are divorced and single, you might tend to be heartbroken and depressed, especially if you are the type that wanted to fight for the life of your marriage.

(4) You will miss your wedding ring an what it represented and your wedding memories becomes taunting.

(5)You will have several thoughts that will earn you a high blood pressure. You will think over those good times that will longer be sweet memories but memories that will gnaw at your heart.

(6) You will hurt when the kids feel the pains of that worst form of break up.

(7) You may get paranoid about loving. Depression may set in.

Besides these listed above, going through a divorce doesn’t give the best feeling there is in the world. It is felt in the heart in a hard and painful way. When the man you had a child looks you in the eye and says I want a divorce it can break your heart. When a woman you love looks you in the eye and say “I realized we can’t be together anymore” it can stop your pulse. In the midst of divorce, hatred, hard feelings, bad memories and depression sets in. The kids who grew up in a broken home. Having to wake up to that painful experience hurts.

I have known Lisa for a decade now and she is not over her parent’s divorce. She missed lectures those periods and cried at any given time. She wished her parent’s could work it out and stay together for her sake. Lisa hasn’t forgiven her father for  living them. She is even still scared of getting committed. With her younger sister it’s not the same.  She is a stronger person. Why divorce? Rewind to that day in your beautiful dress, all attention was on and before God you both said “For better for worse till death do us part,”

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