Children Sway… Why?

There are many causes as to why children ‘sway’ and I have sway in parenthesis because only the parent sees it as deviation from a path; the child doesn’t.

I would touch only two causes; the two that have mostly affected me as a child.

1: They don’t like being bossed around

If there’s anything that spooks a child towards becoming disputant towards authority, it’s an over-protective parent. Parents who are this way are well-meaning, future-concerned, caring parents. They only want to produce a disciplined child; a height many try to achieve but some climb the wrong ladder. Many parents go to the extreme trying to teach their children discipline and so they unconsciously give out a distorted image of how authority is meant to be used to the child’s psyche. Now God is a clever, loving Father who built us up with the capabilities to adapt to and overcome challenges; whether we adapt to or overcome whatever we are faced with therefore depends on us. So children get to utilise this ability during adolescence especially, that is when they start spawning veto power; after solemn sessions of thought, they decide to dispute every authority that has ever undermined them or made them tremble, they decide to test the limits of their own strength and see what and what they can overcome. It’s almost like they are packing up to embark on life’s journey and so want to know what they should adapt to and what they should challenge should they encounter it in the future. So, bossing them around is a sure way to set them up for rebellion in the future.

2. They don’t appreciate neglect

Children really don’t appreciate neglect. Although the manifestation occurs when they are grown, it is as a result of an accumulation of feelings from experiences of neglect. All the times parents left on long business trips and came home brandishing toys to compensate for their lost time instead of spending ample time with the kids. Some parents don’t realise it but they appreciate other children more than they do their own kids, this is one of the things I suffered as a kid. Thank God I understand that life is not to be governed by feelings else being a rebel would be the least of my parents’ worries right now. Yes, I love my parents unconditionally, but what do I do with all the pain I feel inside? Do I deny the fact that I feel anything at all and just put on a smiling face while I’m crying inside? I’m not really a fan of pretence when it comes to serious issues like this one. Parents have to learn to spend considerable time with their kids and understand that these children need their approval and acknowledgement.

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