Things you should not do in a relationship if you want it to work
The word dating is no longer, what it used to be. You most have to realize that your boyfriend or girlfriend had his or her own friends’ priority to meeting you. It is about learning and exploring the possibilities that exist in a relationship and figuring out if the relationship can move to the next level. You cannot expect your partner to abandon his/her lifestyle to fit in with yours it doesn’t just work that way .
Here are things you should not do while yo are dating :
Don’t expect Your Partner to Give Up “Me” Time
I strongly believe Everyone deserves to have some “me” time where he or she relaxes and loosen up after working hard or taking care of business, this is when your partner gets to do what he/she thinks or feels like doing just to relax or ease the pressure . Do not expect your partner will be around you 24/7. Your partner deserves to have some alone time where he or she can wind down without being disturbed. Every relationship should have time out where each partner can relax without choking the other partner up.
Do not monitor your partner
For goodness sake don’t turn into a monitoring spirit. Some people are fond of calling their partners up and when he or she does not answer the phone, they press the redial button immediately. Calling your partner too frequently is a sign of desperation (or insecurity) when there is no emergency. Your partner may be at a meeting at work or in-transit and cannot pick up your call. It may also be that your partner wants to have some time alone. Learn to wait for an explanation before charging and jumping to conclusions about his/her whereabouts.
Monitoring your partner’s movements or phone calls is a sign of insecurity. Do not try to sneak and check your partner’s phone every time it rings or ask who is calling. Do not try to be too clingy. It also shows some signs of insecurity. Allow your partner talk to whomever he/she wants to, because you might be getting on his nerves when u keep asking or impliedly show him that you don’t trust him
Do not try to change or control your partner
Your insecurities may also push you to want to control your partner and expect him or her to take to your rules. Dating is more like trying on shoes to see which ones will fit you. You cannot try to change someone just to fit into your own ways. You either accept them for who they are along with their flaws or move on to find someone else. Trying to change or control someone is narcissistic and should not be encouraged. You can learn to understand your partner and work together to figure out how best to improve on your communication and relationship while building into one another.
Do not expect him to always know what you want
your partner is a human being just like you are and not a God that know what you are thinking. Not everyone is good at reading people, so if your partner does not read you well or understand your body language don’t just go bananas on him or her . Rather find a way to communicate more and let him or her understand how you feel at every point of time because they don’t intentionally don’t want to understand how you feel and you will see your love life blossom .
If you find anything wrong, it is best to bring it to your partner’s attention by having an amiable conversation than an intense argument. It is okay to let your partner know about your fears (if any) and you both work at it together. Relationships are not rocket-science. It takes two people who know and understand each other while dating to make a relationship work.
Dating is all about trying to figure each other out, ensuring you both share values and are compatible. You also trust, love and are committed to each other. Your partner’s time should be valued as well as yours and respect each other’s space. No one is perfect in the essence that everyone has their unique flaws ,so for one to enter into a relationship you got to check how able or willing to condole such flaws in your partner . The more you give your partner the space needed and build on each other, the deeper you give room for your relationship to thrive.
I tell you this; there are lots off people out there good that will care and love you so don’t be weighed down by your previous relationship which might have ended in heartbreaks ………………
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